So I have the daunting task of searching for a new job. Anybody that has been in this position knows that this can be nerve racking! The idea of waking up each day and checking your inbox to see if anyone has gotten back to you. Or applying for hundreds of jobs that you think you may qualify for but not one of those companies gives you a callback. The process can lead you to drink. Seriously.
When I started, I was faced with a number of questions: How will they react to my hair? Should I straighten it? Push it back with a headband? Do I wear a wig? Will my hair affect me not getting this position? Will I catch them looking at my hair? And YES! All of these questions flew through my head at the same damn time.
I quickly pushed all of these thoughts out of my head because:
1. I LOVE my hair.
2: Theres no way Im going to apply heat to my hair everyday especially when Ive been on a no heat strike since July.
3. I dont have any extra money to buy a wig- not a good one anyway! Lol
4. My resume speaks for itself. If I can be passed over for a position because of my hair then I wasnt meant to work for that company anyway. (Cocky much? I guess. Lol)
In other words, the answer to all of my questions: I dont care. No. No. No. I dont care. I dont care. Lol
Let me hear from you! Any others have reservations about how their natural hair affects their professional appearance? I wanna know!
Not at all close to what my mini Fro looks like but just as a reference… lol
Since going back natural, I have read that sometimes your hair can change in texture. Just as soon as I was getting used to being a cool 4C. I discovered that its actually changing into more of a 3C/4A/4C with a couple of annoying 2A pieces in there. Im not too certain on whether this has something to do with my change in regimen or my experiment with new products but I may as well embrace it!
Whats your hair type or types? And have you been experiencing any changes? Please share!
I stopped taking care of my hair somewhere between my last day of high school and my first semester in college.
Once I got out on my own, I started putting glue in it, sewing it up, dying it (myself) and I never slept with a scarf!
The real damage came after I gave birth to my son five years ago. At that point i didnt care about my hair at all. I never took the time to nurture and make it grow. I wore sew in after sew in- after sew in. And pretty much covered up the fact that my hair was damaged tremendously underneath all the three bundles of Indian Remy.
In August of this year, I had finally had enough. My crown had completely stopped growing and my edges were non existent. So I literally woke up on morning and said to myself ‘Ive had enough. Its time.’ I got off work and drove straight to the Hair Cuttery (big mistake) because it was the only place I knew that I could get it all chopped off really cheap and quickly.
I went in with a completely different picture in mind than I walked out of there with. The experience was horrible and I literally cried while sitting in the chair. My mind was racing, my palms were sweaty and I felt like I had made the biggest mistake in the world. Afterwards, I immediately got up and walked to the closest liquor store to buy the biggest bottle of wine that I could find.
The reactions that I received later on that night from my friends were varied- which did NOT help me at all. And I spent the night trying my hardest to figure out what to do with my hair and the answer was– NOT a DAMN THING because I had chopped it all off!
I woke up the next morning and the first thing I did was look in the mirror. It was at that time that I realized the shape of my eyes and the pronounced curve of my jawline and I literally said to myself ‘Im beautiful.’ That morning at Wawa (while I got coffee) I received a total of three compliments (I counted) and when I arrived to work everyone had something nice to say about my new cut. It was extremely nice and and ego boost.
Long story short– I am in love with my hair! Every kink, curl and frizz! I have taken a newfound liking to trying out different products and figuring out what works for me and my hair! Its new to me to actually enjoy taking care of it. Im free from perms and I have decided that Im going heat-free until I reach the length that I want to achieve- even if it takes me years.