Just finished a debate on an Instagram post by a boutique owner – who shall remain nameless. She posted this picture:
And proceeded to say that she was happy that she won and her hair looks great! But natural hair is not for everybody. Hmmmmm.
Now you #teamnatural came out of kinks to respond to this- Including me! And I never get into meaningless and debates on any social network but I felt the need to voice my opinion on such an ignorant comment/opinion. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion whether it be good or bad. But to say that natural does not look good on everybody is to say that the skin color you were born with does not suit you- You were born that way!
She went on to explain that what she meant was: ‘Some people use being natural as an excuse to not keep up with their appearance. They roll out of bed and not do anything to their hair.’
Well some women with relaxed hair do the same thing also. So there’s no difference there. There are plenty of times when I roll out of bed and I do not have to do anything to my hair at all expect for take my scarf off. Yet my hair does not look unkept or messy.
There were other comments as well from people who were supportive of this post. Women were saying that ‘being natural is trend.’ I hear this a lot and I feel as though, my hair is not a trend. Trends are things that fade with time and come back again. My natural hair is here to stay. Its been with me since birth and it will be with me when I leave this earth. There is no way I would go back to a process that is damaging to my hair. I returned natural because I wanted to grow strong and healthy hair. And relaxing it every 6-8 weeks was not doing anything but damaging it.
I feel as though people have become so accustomed to how their hair is supposed to LOOK as opposed to how its supposed to BE. I do not knock anyone who has relaxed hair. Its just not for me anymore. But I do not take it too lightly if you try and knock mine either. Especially making rude and ignorant comments that have no substance.
My thing is keep the negative comments to yourself. If its not for you- Its not for you and that goes with anything. It hurts to see black women so divided on a subject where we should be banding together.
I apologize for my rant. Just had to vent.