I overanalyze, overthink and stress over the smallest things- Im human! Add being a single mother, working a full time job plus various side projects and running a household- Im downright insane. Could even be diagnosed at this point!
Im a nurturer by nature. I want everyone to get along, be at peace and in general just be okay! I have to admit that I have neglected myself over the past few years and have slowly been digging this hole of confusion and self-pity.
You know the cliche; New year, New Me. But this year Im just trying to get back to the old me. And I will do so by any means- Starting with my writing. Its always been a passion and a release for me and I have strayed far away from it and I need it back!
Needless to say Im excited about the 2014! And I would love to hear some of your thoughts. How will you get back to the old you or continue on the path to becoming the you – you want to be?
Lets face it- after the Big Chop your style choices are pretty limited. I have been toying around with the idea of color, chopping it again and racking my brain to figure out what else I can do to set my Big Chop off!
I came across this picture of Solange Knowles a couple of weeks ago and I fell in love with her part!
So last night for my besties holiday party, I tried it out!
To create this look, I simply co-washed me hair in the shower. After getting dressed I rewet my hair with water from my spray bottle, used the Ancient Secrets Hair Oil, and applied some of Miss Jessie’s Curly Pudding to my entire fro. This method is also known as the LOC method- meaning Liquid, Oil and Creme.
After that regimen I took my rat tail comb and started from crown and worked my way down to my edges to create the side part. Not only was it fun, quick and easy but I got a load of compliments from my friends!
What are some of the ways that you style your TWA?
So you wait and wait and finally you get that monthly email that says ‘Get your curlBOX membership this Saturday at 3pm!’ *does a little jig* Yesss! Im finally in there!!
And then Saturday rolls around and you’re ready- refreshing the site and on GO for when the clock strikes 3.
Insert- whiny child, naptime and the impromptu visit from your Dad and before you know it, its 3:30. But you think to yourself- Maybe I still have a chance! You refresh the site once more to read….
And you cry!!! Ladies this has been a recurring episode in my house on a monthly basis! I just want IN! Why cant I enjoy all the products and goodies that this magical box beholds!? Why cant I partake in the joy of having a monthly gift sitting on my doorstep when i return from a stressful day at work!?
Im so saddened at this point. All I can do is wait. Next month im gonna be ready. Bet that!
I stopped taking care of my hair somewhere between my last day of high school and my first semester in college.
Once I got out on my own, I started putting glue in it, sewing it up, dying it (myself) and I never slept with a scarf!
The real damage came after I gave birth to my son five years ago. At that point i didnt care about my hair at all. I never took the time to nurture and make it grow. I wore sew in after sew in- after sew in. And pretty much covered up the fact that my hair was damaged tremendously underneath all the three bundles of Indian Remy.
In August of this year, I had finally had enough. My crown had completely stopped growing and my edges were non existent. So I literally woke up on morning and said to myself ‘Ive had enough. Its time.’ I got off work and drove straight to the Hair Cuttery (big mistake) because it was the only place I knew that I could get it all chopped off really cheap and quickly.
I went in with a completely different picture in mind than I walked out of there with. The experience was horrible and I literally cried while sitting in the chair. My mind was racing, my palms were sweaty and I felt like I had made the biggest mistake in the world. Afterwards, I immediately got up and walked to the closest liquor store to buy the biggest bottle of wine that I could find.
The reactions that I received later on that night from my friends were varied- which did NOT help me at all. And I spent the night trying my hardest to figure out what to do with my hair and the answer was– NOT a DAMN THING because I had chopped it all off!
I woke up the next morning and the first thing I did was look in the mirror. It was at that time that I realized the shape of my eyes and the pronounced curve of my jawline and I literally said to myself ‘Im beautiful.’ That morning at Wawa (while I got coffee) I received a total of three compliments (I counted) and when I arrived to work everyone had something nice to say about my new cut. It was extremely nice and and ego boost.
Long story short– I am in love with my hair! Every kink, curl and frizz! I have taken a newfound liking to trying out different products and figuring out what works for me and my hair! Its new to me to actually enjoy taking care of it. Im free from perms and I have decided that Im going heat-free until I reach the length that I want to achieve- even if it takes me years.
Ive been wanting to get back into writing for awhile. And Ive been putting it off for years. Ive started books, blogs, short stories, poems and digital magazines. My problem- The follow through.
So after I decided to do the Big Chop ( we’ll discuss that deeper later) in August of this year, I was constantly reading natural haircare blogs and watching YouTube tutorials. Pretty much searching for the best possible way to grow my hair back the quickest and healthiest way that I could. Ive come to find that every hair journey is different. And If I wanted to grow mine- It would have to be through trial and error and doing it my way!
Im starting this blog to document MY natural haircare journey and the steps Im taking to grow a full and healthy mane! And share my love for all things pretty and natural.
Join me for this journey!